I am not sure how my sister managed to get a 9lb 8oz perfect baby boy out of her lady garden and is still able to walk around, but Satu and I couldn't be more thrilled with the new addition to our family.
We have talked about having children of our own, but with lesbians, these things don't just happen like they do when straight couples find themselves alone in a dark room.
I can't imagine how much crushing love Kim must feel for Sam because Satu and I already love him completely and infinitely. For the first time in my life, I truly understand what people mean when they talk about babies like they are little miracles. Tiny, impossible little people. Everyone knows how this happens, and still, when it happens, it seems so crazy, so science fiction, so infinitely wonderful.
Satu is going to be a wonderful aunt. Here is a list of some of the reasons that I know she belongs in our family and will be such a great influence on the new little guy.
1. She understands children and small animals. She is a comforting influence on anyone that needs the light touch of a reassuring hand.
2. She is strong enough to keep on loving and loving and loving through all of the weird ups and downs that come with growing up.
3. She is loyal. If there was one word that I would choose to describe my wife, it is loyal. She is true to herself. True to her ideals and will be there to love that little man as fiercely as anyone else on earth.
4. Satu is great at flirting and understands women. When Sam needs advice that can't come from his parents, Satu will tell it like it is. She will make sure that the young man has good "game" without sacrificing being a good person.
5. Satu understands people like no one I have ever known. She is a careful observer, and though strangers may not know it, she is one of the most empathetic people that I know. There is not a person on earth that she won't try to understand.
6. Satu talks to children like they are real, important people who matter. Because they are. She is playful, but respectful of their person hood. She shows everyone respect for their individuality. Just because you are three years old doesn't mean that you should get talked down to or patronized. You should be talked to like a person.
7. Satu knows how important an aunt can be to help develop a well rounded kid. She talks about summers with her own aunt that helped her understand a different perspective on family.
8. Satu is one of the most steady people I know. She belongs in our family.
When I was a teenager, I felt like I needed distance from my mom, but I still needed to talk to grownups and to feel reassured by someone who loved me. For a summer when I was particularly lost and felt overwhelmed by the fragility of life, I wrote letters to my mom's twin sister. She always answered and as far as I know never broke confidence. It was good to be watched over by someone just outside of the nucleus. I feel like Satu is the calm, supportive one between the two of us and I could see her providing that same kind of support to Sam if he needed it. She is a metal dog. Loyal, sturdy and trustworthy. I know Sam is going to love her.
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